bubblegothdemigirl:

As someone who grew up with freakishly controlling parents (I’m 21 now), let me tell you the results of this:

I have attachment and trust issues. I’m am independent to the point if being self destructive, because I am terrified of someone brushing me aside (not taking me seriously), and/or giving me advice that has no legitimate basis that ends up hurting me, instead of helping me.

Give rules with reasons. Do not say “because I’m your parent”, no, that is fucking bullshit and you know it. Make punishments fit the crime. When your child gets into high school, give them respective boundaries and enough “leash room”, so they feel like you trust them to “do the right thing”, but also know that if they do fuck up, they feel COMFORTABLE telling you, not scared shit less where they’ll give you a stream of lies because they’re terrified of telling you the truth of what actually happened.

Trust me when I say this, compulsive lying turns into an addictive habit. My compulsive lying in the real world is a result of my parents not respecting my boundaries and giving me the proper “leash room”. Yes, it’s so fucking hard to stop myself. Yes, I am fighting against it every damn day of my life.

Also, by saying “no privacy”, well you better take the door and any kind of covering object from your kid (blankets, doors, pillow cases, etc). See how ridiculous this sounds?

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